Sexual activity is an essential factor in life and a catalyst for deepening spousal relationships. While it is crucial, it should not be indulged in excessively and should be reasonably arranged. However, there is no clear-cut answer to what the best time for sexual activity is. It depends on the age and needs of the couple.
Firstly, is the sex frequency formula reasonable?
The sexual frequency formula is “the first digit of age multiplied by 9”. A sexologist at a sexual forum held in China by American sexologists announced his findings, which caused an uproar.
According to this formula, the sex frequency formula for people aged 20 to 29 is 2 × 9 ≤ 18. Eight is a combination of ten and eight, meaning that the frequency of sexual activity is eight times in ten days. For people aged 30 to 39, the sex formula is 3 × 9 ≤ 27, meaning that they should ideally have sex seven times in 20 days.
Experts also concluded an empirical formula through surveying couples. Thus far, there is not much scientific data to back up this formula, and it is just a reference for those that need it. The frequency of sexual activity depends on factors such as physical condition, emotion, and love.
Secondly, the age and number for healthy sexual activity
As the “Essential Chinese Medical Secrets of a Female Virgin” states: “For a 20-year-old, have sex every four days with one partner. For 30-year-olds, have sex thirty times every eight days. For 40-year-olds, have sex forty times every sixteen days. The ideal number of sex partners per year is 50, while for a 21-day month, have sex once a day, making 60 times a month.” With the continuous advancement of medical science, people have realized that controlling sexual activity requires individual analysis. The criteria for sexual activity are no fatigue, no loss of energy, and happiness the next day.
Lastly, what is the ideal duration of sexual activity?
Good sex does not typically last for 13 minutes or more.
A study conducted by the University of Pennsylvania found out that people’s expectations and myths about long-lasting sexual activity are wrong. Experts suggest that an excellent sexual experience typically lasts for 13 minutes or less, excluding foreplay.
In this study, the American Society for Sex Therapy and Research surveyed psychologists, doctors, social workers, marriage therapists, and nursing staff who care for thousands of patients. Thirty-four experts answered, indicating that ideal sex duration (excluding foreplay) should be 3-7 minutes, while 7-13 minutes is the ideal time people want. Anything longer is too long, and anything shorter than three minutes is too short.
Psychologists conducting this study pointed out that people’s explanation of their sexual abilities or those of their partners are formed in a social environment. Unrealistic expectations can lead to universal disappointment and frustration. Unfortunately, popular culture still reinforces old sexual myths about long-lasting sex and big penises. Previous research found that many men and women hope for sexual activity lasting over 30 minutes.